How Love Should Be ..
Day 22 and 23 — Allowing another person to fully love me means they must and I must…
I am combining these two days’ posts together cause I believe, love is something mutual and reciprocatory. You cannot talk about one partner without talking about the other..
Love is a bond between two individuals or entities..Deciding and allowing to loveeach other is a natural and spontaneous process..( in some societies, we have an artificially induced love, as in arranged marriages and so on, which may or may not progress to be a genuine marriage of hearts)..
It is a process because many things are involved here, sharing your thoughts, and feelings, agreeing to common decisions on many issues.. further deciding whether you r love is strong and powerful enough to last a lifetime..whether you see each other as people with whom you can spend the rest of your life with.. It is a process because it is continuous..it is not discrete..there are ups and downs..changes and adjustments to be made according to the weather conditions prevailing..It does not remain at the same intensity all the time..Both partners need to appreciate that love does not mean sucking up to each other with sweet words..it can take many forms..can be as friendship, sometimes can be parental to each other, sometimes like siblings, cab be childlike, can be ancient, can be modern, .need not be sexual, ..
Taking the decision to love each other also implies retaining the right to respect each other’s space and views, to remember that loving each other does not mean, swallowing the other up in your own personality and demands..to remember that at the end of the day each needs to develop and progress at his or her own pace..that at the end of the day, we are all individuals choosing to pursue a combined journey..
Two hearts that beat as one ~ United but separate ~ is what would be my ideal concept of how love should be..