How Love Should Be ..
Day 22 and 23 — Allowing another person to fully love me means they must and I must…
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I am combining these two days’ posts together cause I believe, love is something mutual and reciprocatory. You cannot talk about one partner without talking about the other..
Love is a bond between two individuals or entities..Deciding and allowing to loveeach other is a natural and spontaneous process..( in some societies, we have an artificially induced love, as in arranged marriages and so on, which may or may not progress to be a genuine marriage of hearts)..
It is a process because many things are involved here, sharing your thoughts, and feelings, agreeing to common decisions on many issues.. further deciding whether you r love is strong and powerful enough to last a lifetime..whether you see each other as people with whom you can spend the rest of your life with.. It is a process because it is continuous..it is not discrete..there are ups and downs..changes and adjustments to be made according to the weather conditions prevailing..It does not remain at the same intensity all the time..Both partners need to appreciate that love does not mean sucking up to each other with sweet words..it can take many forms..can be as friendship, sometimes can be parental to each other, sometimes like siblings, cab be childlike, can be ancient, can be modern, .need not be sexual, ..
Taking the decision to love each other also implies retaining the right to respect each other’s space and views, to remember that loving each other does not mean, swallowing the other up in your own personality and demands..to remember that at the end of the day each needs to develop and progress at his or her own pace..that at the end of the day, we are all individuals choosing to pursue a combined journey..
Two hearts that beat as one ~ United but separate ~ is what would be my ideal concept of how love should be..
“Two hearts that beat as one ~ United but separate ~ is what would be my ideal concept of how love should be..”
That sounds too idealistic.. Among many things that I am yet to understand, Love as a concept occupies prime spot.. It is many things to many people but defies one universal definition.
It often involves conflicting requirements; to name one- the need for togetherness and same time respecting each other’s ‘space and views’!
Also not sure if it is necessary that love has to be always a two way street.. I think one can love without reciprocation from the loved ones.
Again, is Love an emotion? If yes, why do we expect Love to last for ever when all other emotions are impermanent! If no, what is it?!
That is what i said. It is my ideal definition. Reality is different for different people because of the differing nature of the people we interact with and we have close bonds with and the environments we live in. And yes, what you say is right, love is different to different people again primarily because our expectations and personalities are different..
Basically, in short it would be a feeling of akinness with someone, which increases to a feeling of a stronger, deeper, intense nature.. yes..conflicting requirements. Hence as I said, it cannot be imposed on someone.
This post basically is about what are the expectations of yourself and your partner if you choose to love each other…and pretty much tries to focus on that.
And i did mention that loving and being in love is not a for ever thingie..it can change..subject to different influences and conditions..its nature may change.And i think a lot of problems and unhappiness can be removed if it is understood that love need not be always permanent, it can be outgrown and outworn..
Having said that, very relevant points you raised, enough to justify another post
GR8 VIEWS…………UNIQUELY UNIQUE, ACTUALLY FLEXIBILITY ALONG WITH UNDERSTANDING N ADJUSTMENTS IS D KEY ACCORDING 2 ME. THANKS 4 SHARING
very nicely said. having said that, it does not look as easy as it is to say it..
I really appreciate ur ideas
abt long lasting luv…..if it has 2 last long 
Yup,easier said than done
and i do agree that for some it is more transient!!! Actually, as u yourself have correctly mentioned bonding @soul level + friendship(compatibility along with Understanding and Respect towards each other) and not just external physical attraction is d real key to sustainability!!! COMPATIBILITY = SUSTAINABILITY 
I totally agree with you, loving each other does not mean, swallowing the other up in your own personality and demands. Every person has their unique characteristics that make the relationship richer..being separate yet been one does work..
again differs from person to person. for some people, it means being totally caught up in each other, i guess
Love is incidental. Love does not see anything like age cast religon and reason. Love may be in arranged marriage but its.not certain.and there is nothing wrong in extra merital and living in relationship.
Love is incidental. Love does not see anything like age cast religon and reason. Love may be in arranged marriage but its.not certain.and there is nothing wrong in extramerital .
thanks
very well written! love means different things to different people…nonetheless at the end of the day it is love that makes the world go round, cannot imagine a world without ‘love’, how cold and harsh it would be.
true. rightly said.:-)
“……….. …………… …………….. Two hearts that beat as one ~ United but separate ~ is what would be my ideal concept of how love should be.. ………………. ”
“……….. …………… …………….. Two hearts that beat as one ~ United but separate ~ is what would be my ideal concept of how love should be.. ………………. ”
“……….. …………… …………….. Two hearts that beat as one ~ United but separate ~ is what would be my ideal concept of how love should be.. ………………. ”
“……….. …………… …………….. Two hearts that beat as one ~ United but separate ~ is what would be my ideal concept of how love should be.. ………………. ”
NOT YET enf …. I wish to chant this mantra….
Love for what you do not have.
Once you have it doesn’t remain as love.
It moves ahead. It is either Lost or it is Trust.
Love in relationship brings expectation. Which usually then largely moves in the direction of a partner trying to mould the other partner into what he/she believes is right.
You love a person for the individuality of the person. Sadly in many relationship the fact tepers off.
In a relationship it is important to retain individuality( for both the people); at the same time it should not be at the cost of what the two have constructed – the family
Great post…
Thanks Sofia..